Let’s Talk About It

When you're not ok mentally, it feels like the safest place to be is alone. It's overwhelming being misunderstood but even more tiresome trying to explain what you feel like, nobody will understand nor take seriously, so the suffer is silent.

I know the loss it might put on relationships, that they say meant no good if it comes to fail at this time. While that maybe true, that's not something a person already mentally struggling wants to process. So again, the suffer is silent.

The stigma that you're some kind of crazy or sickly because mentally you're struggling, the charity love that feels like a pity party, and so forth, so I know why it feels safer alone.

But the truth is you truly do need someone, someone you can trust with the things that you are sometimes uncomfortable knowing about yourself. One safe space away from yourself does more help than harm, I promise you. Tell someone, that's the only way they can know. I know sometimes it's instinct to feel that people around you should know you, but when you make pain look good it doesn't wear off. You must speak up, holding people accountable for not knowing is almost selfish and honestly it attacks your mental state even more. If you're unsure of who to go to, you go to EVERYONE first, and you keeping going and talking until you feel a home with them. That's a scary part of the process but beneficial. When you start talking, you'll see that you make that journey more alone than it truly has to be. It's healthy to have someone to help redirect your energy. It might hurt in the process, but that's just growing pains.

If you’re someone who’s a friend of a person mentally struggling, although it maybe hard for you to recognize in some moments, know that they appreciate you. When they're too down and out to admit it, they need you, so don't wait for them to ask. This is your permission! I know it's tough in this position too, but you are a key player to this person. Place no blame if it's too much for you, because honestly, they'd probably leave themselves too. But if you're built different, stick it out with your friend!! Reassure them that they are not alone!! Stand in the gap until your friend can cross that bridge!! Make time to be present!! It's important that you be supportive and not an enabler.

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